This 26-year-old guy has a female best friend from childhood who is 25; they have been close forever.
His mom and her mom are best friends too, and he suspects their moms got pregnant within a similar time frame because they wanted to raise their kids together.
So, since he can remember, his best friend has been with him daily. They would walk to school with one another and spend time together when school was done.
“She’s my best friend and means a lot to me,” he explained. “When I realized women were attractive, I was attracted to her. I still am attracted to her.”
“She’s pretty, and we get along. I have a thing for her, but I’ve been pining for years. I see her as a sister and would never want to do anything that would make it awkward for us.”
But, when she turned 13, she admitted to him that she was only interested in girls, and that’s all she dated until high school was nearly over. Because of his best friend’s confession, he pushed down his feelings for her.
As he and his best friend grew older, they never grew apart. They each have been through some tough things over the last several years, which has only brought them closer.
He and his best friend take turns staying over at one another’s apartments for weeks; that’s how close they really are.
“We’ve always been nice to each other, and saying “I love you” or “love ya” is not uncommon,” he said.
“But lately, it’s been more. Not to sound like those people, but we’ve literally laid in the same bed facing each other, just talking about how much we love and care about each other.”
They even ended up kissing last year and have also kissed a couple of times since then. Not too long ago, he and his best friend ended up sleeping together, and then she said she was in love with him.
“I told her that I love he,r but I don’t know if us being in a relationship is the right move,” he continued.
“She agrees, but if I asked, she would say yes to a relationship. I’m just apprehensive. We’re both at low points.”
“And we both really need each other as friends more than ever. I’m just worried about losing another close person. This loss would hurt more than anything else. I don’t know what to do.”
Should he take a chance and start dating his best friend?